The way of the Christian leader
From Henri Nouwen's In The Name of Jesus:
The way of the Christian leader is not the way of upward mobility in which the world has invested so much, but the way of downward mobility ending on the cross. … It is not a leadership of power and control, but a leadership of powerlessness and humility in which the suffering servant of God, Jesus Christ, is made manifest.

thanks for reminding me of this powerful passage! wounded healer?
I think it's from "In the name of Jesus" pages 62-63.